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The Hesse-Darmstadts (Hesse and by Rhine) / Re: Was Grand Duke Ernst really gay/bisexual?
« on: September 21, 2004, 12:09:32 AM »Quote
It may in today's lingo. I don't know about the time. (And Robert respectfully asked us to say 'gay' which I support as it's much shorter to type.). As the only son/heir wouldn't he have to marry & father children? He was a dutiful, responsibly ruler. I think he probably was more bi-sexual since he seemed very content with Onor and even wanted his marriage to VM to work out until it was just unbearable for both. Or, like many gay men just learned to either stuff their urgings away for periods of time (ala KR) and have a 'normal' life or perhaps never married. Ernie married just a few years after his divorce so I think for whatever reason he wanted/needed to be married. As I mentioned above, my father-in-law married and fathered children (thank God!) before divorcing my MIL when hubby was 16 (but not fessing up until Bob was in his late 20s and only when he directly asked him). He is definitely GAY no bisexuality there--he's been with his partner since the marriage broke up . It was just the norm to marry & have kids up until the last few years really so it's really hard to use it as a barometer of anything I think. It is interesting that men about whose sexuality much is speculated like EL & KR, they married 'soft', mothering, nurturing women (Onor & Mavra).
You're right, of course, about the request to use 'gay.' I, too, hate the clinicalness of the H word.

I hope there will be some insight into the GD's mind in the forthcoming (hint, hint) book by our esteemed compatriots.
BTW, I think I love you, grandduchessella!
