Some people do seem to have an obsessive hatred of this woman, and seem to assume that everyone is similarly obsessed about her, but from casual talk in the UK, I get the impression that people are generally willing to accept her without having strong feelings either way. From film and reports of her at public occasions, she seems to perform perfectly adequately; I studiously avoid reading most of the nonsense that is written in the press about the royal family, so am not really competent to comment on that. I am thoroughly sceptical of press coverage of princesses that present them either as being saints or witches; in real life, human character and human relations are always so much complicated than that. As I have said, I have never tried to reach any conclusions about the private character of this woman, partly because I am not that interested, and partly because I think that it is impossible to do so on the basis of the kind of stuff that is published about her. The only disinterested first-hand observations that I have heard about her come from people who mixed with her in army circles way back, and haven't been inclined to view her as some kind of stage villainess. Your characterization of her sounds to me like a one-sided caricature, and as such, a sin against human charity.