Okay. I haven't discovered this topic until today, so I'm going to add my 2 cents:
1) IMO, the first post was entirely . . . ugh. Alexandra made mistakes. Nobody can deny that. But we all do! In the end, I don't think anybody can really critcise her: she was, after all, MURDERED for her mistakes. How much more can you give the poor woman? I think that she just didn't understand the Russian court the way everybody else did. In Massie's book Nicholas and Alexandra, (paraphrasing) it talks about how for the first few months, Alexandra would go to balls and things (without the worry of children at home) and she just wasn't a good socialiser. If I had to dress up in a corset and a dress that went down to my feet then go down to talk to all kinds of srange people about the latest gossip (ugh - I am SO not a gossiper) then I would not like it either!
2) For all her faults, Alexandra had many things going for her. During the war, she was a devoted nurse. As some sources say, she hardly ever missed a day at the lazaret (thanks, Sarushka, from reading TLC four times, that word and it's definition is firmly lodged in my mind) although she would do her best to find excuses to miss balls. I, for one, admire her for that - I'd rather do something productive than sit around and gossip. I am not trying to make her a perfect person by any means - as I said before, she had MANY flaws. Stubborn, always believed herself in the right, many things like that. But as a poster pointed out early in the discussion, her virtues highly overruled flaws, IMO.
3) I think that she found herself in a situation which she wasn't prepared for. She went on a family reunion when she was 12, met a handsome 16-year-old, and had a case of puppy love. Then, 10 years later, voila! Thay meet again at the wedding, relinquish their love, and get married. The poor woman had to learn a whole new religion and a whole new language. Perhaps she wasn't a good Empress. But it clearly shows that she was ALWAYS devoted to Nicholas. You've got to give her some credit. And Nicholas stayed faithful to Alexandra, and that hadn't happened with a Czar in, what? A *long* time. And she clearly cares about her children. Olga, Tatiana, Maria, Anastasia and Alexei were clearly loved very much by their parents, and were a very close family. If they hadn't been the Imperial Family (yes, FA, feel free to crack a joke about that =D yes I read the first 7 pages of this thread) then they would have most likely been a very good family - their nieghbors would have probably looked at them with respect. But as it was, they were the IF, and that's what brought them down - their incapability to rule a country starved with revolution. Really, anybody would have been incapable to rule such a country.
All in all, I think that in her moral standards, Alexandra was a very respectful woman - stayed religious until the end, stayed a tight-knit family until the end . . . of course she had flaws. Of course she did. But there were so many virtues that were unseeable to the people of that time . . . IMO, it is impossible to look at her with cold eyes and see nothing but a flawed, evil woman. She had so many good things about her . . .
And so ends my first post on the "Alexandra" discussion board.
Sincerely,
Olga Bernice