Victorian mourning customs on the Forum about Russian culture??
This forum is entitled 'their world and culture'. The Romanovs lived through the Victorian era, and Alexandra was a granddaughter of Queen Victoria and spent plenty of time in Victorian England. Therefore, a thread on Victorian mourning customs, which did affect life at the Russian court, is perfectly pertinent, I think; mourning was a pretty prominent part of 'their world', wouldn't you say, Svetabel?
I find the cult of mourning in the Victorian age highly interesting, myself, and I am happy to tell what I know.
During the Victorian period, mourning became a very important social custom. There was a strict ettiquette one had to stick to. The death of a close relative would usually entail one year of mourning. During the first six months of this mourning, it would be unacceptable for the grieving family to wear anything other than unornamented black. After the first six months, they would go into 'second mourning' for three months, which still meant they had to wear black clothes, but could wear trimmings and jewellery. In the last three months they could move into slightly lighter colours; purple, lilac, grey or white, known as half mourning Jewellery could also be worn during this time. After the last three months, mourning was over, and, if desired, the family could now wear ordinary clothes without appearing disrespectful. Obviously some mourners, especially widows, chose to wear the black mourning clothes for the rest of their lives. Also, the period of mourning for a widow was usually much longer- at least two years, and full mourning was worn for a year and a day. This included the wearing of a veil.
During this age of morbidity, mourning jewellery became very fashionable. The use of hair from dead relatives seems rather macabre today, but then it was considered normal to have the hair of the dead be made into a bracelet, or be pressed into a ring or locket of some sort. Black jet was also used a lot in mourning jewellery.
My tutor at university is currently writing a book on Victorian mourning customs. It's an absolutely fascinating subject.
Rachel
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