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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #135 on: July 23, 2013, 03:04:50 AM »
Going on vacation, Ann?
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« Reply #136 on: July 23, 2013, 03:49:17 AM »
On that note: I am actually on holiday now, which gives me more time to visit and contribute to the Forum. However, I will resume work again on Thursday thus don't be too worried or surprised if I suddenly "disappear" for a week or two!!

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« Reply #137 on: July 23, 2013, 07:02:13 AM »
First, I'm going on a cycling trip, then almost immediately on an Air Cadet camp.

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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #138 on: August 03, 2013, 12:05:07 AM »
Today is RHB's birthday.  I tried to send her an e-mail, and it was bounced back.  That means one of two things.  1.  Her inbox is too full, there is no more room.  2.  Her e-mail account has been deactivated, that only happens if the person doesn't log in for a LONG time.

So this indicates she no longer has an online presence.  Once again I wonder if some misfortune hasn't overtaken her.
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« Reply #139 on: August 03, 2013, 09:58:18 AM »
Today is RHB's birthday.  I tried to send her an e-mail, and it was bounced back.  That means one of two things.  1.  Her inbox is too full, there is no more room.  2.  Her e-mail account has been deactivated, that only happens if the person doesn't log in for a LONG time.

So this indicates she no longer has an online presence.  Once again I wonder if some misfortune hasn't overtaken her.

It is sounding more and more like that Tim. Since we naturally expect just to "be around" we often don't consider what happens to the online community and contacts we've made when something unfortunate happens. Sometimes there is someone to pick up the slack and alert people (Robert Hall for example) when you've passed or have permanently been forced to leave for one reason or another.

Our behavior online and being part of group communities such as this is a new phenomenon in annuls of human history. It used to only take word of mouth and a newspaper clipping to alert the rest of our worlds that something happened to us, and not expect us to be around anymore. Not so these days.

I'd hate to speculate on RHB specifically, but I think once I prepare a Will one of the wise things to do is seal a small document with user names and passwords for websites, such as the AP, that I frequently visit. Then in the event of my passing I can instruct whomever I've left behind to alert my acquaintances that I won't be around any longer.
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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #140 on: August 03, 2013, 12:08:34 PM »
I've left instructions with a friend (who is the Executor of my will) on whom to contact online should something happen to me.
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« Reply #141 on: August 03, 2013, 02:49:52 PM »
Today is RHB's birthday.  I tried to send her an e-mail, and it was bounced back.  That means one of two things.  1.  Her inbox is too full, there is no more room.  2.  Her e-mail account has been deactivated, that only happens if the person doesn't log in for a LONG time.

So this indicates she no longer has an online presence.  Once again I wonder if some misfortune hasn't overtaken her.

It is sounding more and more like that Tim.

I don't think we should be too pessimistic, as to mention a few examples, according to Grandduchessella, Lucien is fine, just busy. However, he was a very active contributor, especially in the BeNeLux threads, but stopped posting very abruptly without a word of warning on 1st. May. It is now 3rd. August and a lot of things have happened in Belgium in the meantime, but no comment from Lucien. Britt25 was a very regular contributor to the Habsburg section. I was just about to ask about her when she posted last week, after a break of almost two years, so I don't think that a long silence automatically indicates something negative. People can have problems or move on. I might never have come back but for the fact that (a) someone asked about me and (b) I was very upset to hear about the death of Robert Hall, who was one of my favourite posters and I felt that I just had to comment on his passing. Anyway, hopefully all is well with RHB and all other absent/missing members.

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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #142 on: August 03, 2013, 03:25:36 PM »
How about Tania? I think she was the one, whose father was present at the abdication of the tsar. Do you remember her?

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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #143 on: August 03, 2013, 05:42:20 PM »
I miss Robert, he had some interesting viewpoints.  He and I didn't always agree, but he was fun to debate.


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I don't think we should be too pessimistic, as to mention a few examples, according to Grandduchessella, Lucien is fine, just busy. However, he was a very active contributor, especially in the BeNeLux threads, but stopped posting very abruptly without a word of warning on 1st. May. It is now 3rd. August and a lot of things have happened in Belgium in the meantime, but no comment from Lucien. Britt25 was a very regular contributor to the Habsburg section. I was just about to ask about her when she posted last week, after a break of almost two years, so I don't think that a long silence automatically indicates something negative. People can have problems or move on. I might never have come back but for the fact that (a) someone asked about me and (b) I was very upset to hear about the death of Robert Hall, who was one of my favourite posters and I felt that I just had to comment on his passing. Anyway, hopefully all is well with RHB and all other absent/missing members.

I wish I could feel the same way, Monika.  However, RHB's vanishing was so abrupt that it sent red flags up.  Until I can get proof otherwise, I'm gonna assume the worst.


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How about Tania? I think she was the one, whose father was present at the abdication of the tsar. Do you remember her?

Hmmm, if her father was alive when Nicky abdicated (96 years ago), she must have been getting on in years.
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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #144 on: August 04, 2013, 04:27:44 AM »

'Hmmm, if her father was alive when Nicky abdicated (96 years ago), she must have been getting on in years.'

Getting on, but not necessarily ancient. If her father was in his 20s or early 30s in 1917 (was he somebody's ADC?), she could easily have been born as late as 1940, when he was in his 50s.

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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #145 on: August 04, 2013, 05:24:50 AM »
I remember Tania+. She always had a little + after her name. It is a very long time (something like five years) since she was last active. I had the impression that she was not in the best of health....there used to be a prayers and good wishes thread, so if it still exists perhaps there might be some information there. I had no idea that her father was present at the abdication.

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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #146 on: August 04, 2013, 10:47:55 PM »
This is all part of the modern world of technology. Back in the day when there was no internet, it wasn't hard to get the word out to what was probably a fairly compartmentalized circle of people of someone had fallen ill or, God forbid, passed. People who lived farther away or were more casual friends may have gotten a letter or a newspaper clipping. Now, one can have friends who a) lived all over the world or b) are completely separate from other factions of the person's life. In my case, my hubby would know to log-on (or have someone do it) to let people know if something happened to me. (He would also know how important that would be to me.) Also, I am friends on social media with others here so the news could always get out that way. However, that may not be the case with everyone. They may have friends in groups like this and others that aren't part of their day-to-day, 'real' life and thus wouldn't hear the news like people they work with, or go to Church with, etc...and no one would think to let them know or, perhaps, how to.
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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #147 on: August 04, 2013, 11:11:02 PM »
From experience, I can tell you that finding out about the (sudden) death of a friend via social media is *horrible*. I thought it was a prank, some sort of disgusting hack job. My friend who had charged herself with the task of sending personal emails to the rest of the "circle" didn't have a chance to do so before the word got out over facebook. She still feels guilty about that - and that was three and a half years ago. : (

Of course this pertains to "real life" friends and not strictly online ones.

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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #148 on: August 05, 2013, 07:21:45 AM »
In my opinion, your friend has nothing to be guilty about, Yvette.  It's just part of the world we live in now that Facebook can get messages out as fast as it can.
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Re: Forum Members Not Heard From in a Long While
« Reply #149 on: August 06, 2013, 06:09:50 PM »

'Hmmm, if her father was alive when Nicky abdicated (96 years ago), she must have been getting on in years.'

Getting on, but not necessarily ancient. If her father was in his 20s or early 30s in 1917 (was he somebody's ADC?), she could easily have been born as late as 1940, when he was in his 50s.

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Tania + wasn't young five years ago, but she was (is, I like to hope) vital and engaged. A fervent admirer of the Imperial Family.
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