Her marriage lasted 28 years, which is short taking into consideration than she and the emperor married young.
The worst that can happen to a parent is the death of a child, let alone four sons, her husband at a relatively young age (49), even at that time and five of her grandchildren were murdered, not to mention her first fiancé.
She lost her house, her wealth, and a country she learned to love to what became a rogue state.
Indeed she had good moments with her family, for the time they lasted, but in summary I think there's little to envy there.
In any case she is buried now next to her husband; the mystery of what happened with Nicholas II's and his family's remains is now solved, so I hope she'll rest in peace.