Yes, I think she loved her children, but simply didn't like having them, it was inconeveniant, ( well, nine kids is alot)! And there were so many of them, and she was pretty young, as well. She may not have liked young kids for the reasons some do today, and although she didn't, nor was she expected to care for them herself, it was even more inconveniant to take care of kids back then then today. That era also had different standards of child rearing and behaviour today, even more so among the upper class, and royalty. She did love them, and did care for her grandchildren, when they were more grown up, and had personalities, thereby showing her maturity in appreciating children when they are what they were born to be, individuals. She could really relate to them then, and care about them. So her relationship with her children, and later grand children, was better than if she just regarded them as offspring, to be provided for.
Perhaps it was personal as well, some people prefer children who are older, even grown, and that's the only reason they have children. I don't like young kids, but I would have one child, so that when they are older, they are a true individual to me, and it's not just a provider role. Other than that, I woudn't bother having children. Perhaps Queen Victoria's attitude was a bit like that, although in that era, it was common, and hard to avoid having lots of kids. The reasons Rachel put seem very valid to me.