Jacqueline,
I know what you feel, and am sadded you and your family have had to endure that kind of pain. My own sister and her son stole my parent's estate, etc. without conscience. They were supposed to be loving 'family' members. It has sickened my husband, my daughter to know that loved ones can be, and are, so twisted, selfish, and without feelings whatsoever. These kind of thieves have no accountability to anyone. If they have done this to family, think of what they do to the public, etc. Who can give their trust to these kind of people?
Your family have of course indeed run into rouges who don't even know what the word 'doing what is right' means. At least you have the considerable understanding to know, it was not loved ones who were out for money, etc.
But 80 years later, or that the crime has been commited just a half hour ago, it never takes away from the pain of knowing there are unscruplous thieves everywhere.
It's good you can share your thoughts, and your sorrow here. There are people here who understand, and feel your issues.
Tatiana+