first of all, all children need parents. whether they're in the twenty first or in the sixteenth century. her mother being dead (no matter who was responsible), elizabeth needed her father. how that need was responded to i am not sure, i don't think, really, that henry was the best of fathers. but i think that elizabeth had a strong admiration for his father for two reasons:
1. he was her only parent from a very early age
2. he had a very strong personality. i am sure everyone is aware that especially in parent-children of opposite sex relationships, the parent's strong personality dominates the child.
also, him being probably not the most accessible parent on earth might have turned him into her mind into some godlike figure. i think she felt the need later in life to identify herself strongly as her father's daughter not only because that was, after all, her claim to the throne, but because that was of very big sentimental value to her.
as for her mother, elizabeth did take pride in being anne boleyn's daughter. i think that most of the time she chose to ignore the conflict that must have arose between admiring her father and her mother at the same time. i do believe her pride of being her father's daughter was bigger, but that could have come from the fact that her father was, afetr all, the king. and because she knew him better. her mother was probably somewhat of a fairytale figure fror her.
as for the trauma and all... i don't know. i think that her insecurities later were obviously shown in just about everything she did. in a way that made her the great monarch that she was... those insecurities of course have had a factor of influence in her mother's death, but the truth is that her mother was not the only woman or person for that matter, to die young in dubious circumstances. those were insecure times and elizabeth was very much subjected to that, through her father's constant change of wives, lots of executions for various reasons, katherine howard's death, katherine parr's death, edward's death, mary's rise to power and then unpopularity, her own life being in danger countless times. those insecurities made her what she was and that was shown in her attitude towards marriage.
the thing that made her not want to get married was, i think, that it is something you are supposed to only do once. once she picked a foreign prince to be her husband she was for life asociated with his country of origin (as seen in mary's example). had she taken an english nobleman she would have risen a family to favour. that has numerous disadvantages. i don't think she could ever make up her mind to support the consequences of such an important decisions, and when i'm saying that i'm not talking only marriage, i'm also talking every other important decision she ever made.
my tuppence
