One really think if Ferdinand of Naples ever really loved her or just lusted after her. There is a fine line between lust & love. While Ferdinand can appreciate his wife's "fine bosom" & "milky arms", did he ever sought to understand her ?
Oh, love had nothing to do with an arranged marriage like theirs. It was job like you said. Lust may have played its part but it didn't cement her hold over Ferdinand. She had to resort to unpleasantness to do that over the years. Let's turn the question back to you... if you were Ferdinand, would you be able to deal with or love Maria Carolina, who was neither beautiful, very intelligent nor very likable/ loveable? Not to mention rather abusive and intrusive. I'm not sure either if she knew how to make up for her abuse, unless one counts her "seduction" to get what she wanted (rather selfish). It is rather hard to understand or like/love a character like Maria Carolina.
No I would not put too much blame on Maria Carolina especially in the earlier years. She had a job to do and all the tears shed would not have helped. With her sex appeal and willfulness, Maria Carolina was able to gain control of the kingdom as her mother would have expected. Not too much was written on how difficult it was to do the right thing for the kingdom and fulfill MT's approval and expectations.
The early years, yes, were excusable. However, circa 1775 onwards were not. You seem to keep praising her willfulness, as if it were a good trait, but look at how her willfulness turned out to be her downfall. Smarter people know when to quit, and they quit when they were ahead.
No, Maria Theresa didn't give her full approval to Maria Carolina later on. She was very much ashamed at how MC so openly dominated her husband. I've read that she had to make excuses to Charles III of Spain about her and that in her desire "appease" him, she went ahead with the expulsion of the Jesuits. Charles III had a 3-way tie to Maria Theresa via Tuscany, Parma, and Naples. Charles III seemingly had no major complaints about Tuscany so it was mainly done due to the situations in Naples and Parma. Naples more like it, since Parma was only ruled by a nephew rather a son. Charles III was seemingly keen to keep his hold over Naples, not much over Parma.
I heard that a new Italian book on Maria Carolina is on the way, but it will probably take a few more years.
That's great news, trentk80! Please alert me when it's about to come out....