Nadja, no mea culpas necessary. You are a very close reader with an excellent memory. Your comments always make me a better thinker.
Here is an additional quote from Michael in M&N: "The combination of trusteeship over my estate with the guardianship over my person, without doing anything to protect my fortune, has put me in the position of an imbecile or a madman and made my situation totally unbearable. As things are, even a short visit to Russia is impossible for me, for I shall be seen as a man who has been subjected to a humiliating punishment..." Letter from Michael to Nicholas, 1914, page 153.
I will deal with this letter as well as an explanation about my criticism of Nathalie which I had promised to Tsarista.
I've reread M&N two times this week and spent alot of time thinking about the two of them. The IF certainly had issues with Nathalie. Nicholas even refers to her in a letter to his mother as a "cunning, wicked beast." In the same letter, Nicholas says, "Poor Misha is evidently not responsible for his own actions at the moment, he thinks and reasons as she tells him and its utterly useless to argue with him." The IF cannot and will not hold Michael responsible for his own actions which, in and of itself, speaks volumes. Regardless of how many people think Michael would have made a good Tsar, I have to disagree. He was a pleasant, bright, lovely fellow but it is obvious from this and past actions with Dina, that he was easily led and did not put duty before his personal life. Case in point:
"Michael's twentieth birthday, in November 1898, was an important day: it marked the point when he legally came of age and achieved financial independence, albeit with a trustee appointed to guide and advise him on his affairs for the next five years. The change from minor to manhood was the occasion for considerable official ceremony with a Te Deum at an elaborate church service attended by the imperial family, ministers, court and state dignitaries.
In accordance with tradition, the ceremony ended with Michael being beckoned forward by the Tsar to take two solemn oaths: the first to uphold the fundamental laws of succession to the throne and the institutions of the imperial family; and a second to pledge his allegiance as a Russian officer.....He was now, in law, not only a man but a man sworn to give his unquestioning loyalty to his Emperor." p. 25 M&N
It wasn't like Michael didn't know what was expected of him. And eight months later, due the death of his brother George, Michael found himself heir presumptive. No small deal. When Michael became involved with Nathalie, he engaged in conduct unbecoming to an officer. He not only cuckolded one his fellow officers and caused his wife to leave him, he betrayed the entire corps and caused them huge embarrassment. I never got the sense that this lapse in an officer's code of conduct or the immorality of his choice bothered Michael one iota.
In addition to this mess, he has to do something about Wulfert who has challenged him to a duel The IF is forced to relocate Wulfert to Moscow because he is threatening blackmail. And here we get to Nathalie. "In turn-of-the-century Russia, a wife had no right to live independently from her husband if he chose to prevent her doing do. He had the power to compel her return to him and if she refused the police could arrest her and take her back to him." p. 82 Michael implores the IF (through Frederiks) to get a separate residence permit for Nathalie so she can live apart from her husband. She is granted a permit to live in Moscow. But this isn't good enough for Mrs. Wulfert: "To her the residence order was an outrage, it gave her not a right but only a provisional licence, valid solely in Mosow. Her brother-in-law Matveev was equally indignant, describing the order as 'maltreatment and an abuse of power.'" Here we begin to see the constant legal machinations of Nathalie and her brother-in-law, Matveev. Throughout the rest of this tale, the invisible hand of Matveev is constantly behind the scenes. (Nadya: I don't think Michael would have ever known about the insane/lunatic application within the guardianship laws had it not been for Matveev).
So, what does the 30-year-old Nathalie do? The MOST sensible thing. She gets pregnant. The IF has to get involved in her divorce, the birth certificate of George, and then after promising his family that he will not marry Nathalie, Michael sneaks away with her and does so with Matveev making all the arrangements in secret. He writes to Nicolas and says, "I know that punishment awaits me for this act and I am ready to bear it." (It might be noted, that in 1902, Nicholas writes to his mother about Uncle Pavel, "The closer the relative who refuses to submit to our family rules, the more severe his punishment should be.") Yeah right. He spends the next few years whining and making demands. Here, is a telling point, Nicholas writes: "The guardianship, particularly over the estates, should be established as soon as possible...for she, as I foresee will try or is trying already to turn everything upside down...There have recently been so many categoric orders coming from him - through her and over my head - conducive to nothing but total disorganization...." As you can see, the IF is very aware of Matveev and Nathalie are pushing Michael at every turn.
Now to Dimitry. Here is the only member of the IF to really interact with Nathalie and what does she do? She seduces him (romantically not sexually). This is a woman who uses any kind of "power" given to her unwisely. While Mme Paley was in a similar situation, she knew enough about the court and court politics "to take the medicine" dished out and, ultimately to make amends, esp with AF. Nathalie was obviously clueless about this sort of thing. Additionally, she made negative comments in public about the IF which were passed on. Stupid woman. Nathalie never understood that when she helped to undermine the IF, she helped speed the process toward Revolution. Compare and contrast: when Princess Paley learned of the Tsar's abdication, she wrote, "We realized at once that all was finished." There was a woman who was not stupid.
I shall take no more of your time, Tsaritsa. There are scores of other examples I could cite which have formed my opinion of Michael and Nathalie. If I have offended anyone by my strong opinions, I apologize.