Good Advice

[Jim_Wilhelm]

All:

Here's something else to think about before you post a topic or a reply.  Think about whether someone very close to you (e.g., a wife or husband) may access this site and read your post.  This should be a no-brainer but sometimes we speak freely and don't stop to think about how someone very close to us might react if he or she were to read our post(s).  They may misunderstand or misconstrue something you posted. It could lead to repercussions in your private life.  Suppose you posted that you wished you were Nicholas II. That might not go over very well with a spouse or partner. Guess how I learned this. Think about it.

Jim Wilhelm
Albuquerque, NM USA

[Forum Admin]

Jim
I think this IS good advice, not just for those close to us, but for anyone reading the posts. Much of the "bad feelings" that seem to erupt are exactly from people who type before they think. So, for this reason, I'm going to make this sticky too.

THANKS for this great advice.

[Margarita Markovna]

This is GREAT. Thank you. I hope people read this.

[Sophia_Skymind]

Yeah...I agree with that, too. That's very important if you come from a large family. Think about it when you choose yourself a username, too... My little sister still wants to know what's mine, but I don't want to tell her, because I'm sure she'll laugh at me...

[Joy0318]

I think it's great advice too.

The same goes with choosing a signature line. Everyone here has nice signature lines but on another forum I visit the FA is often having to delete people's siggy's because they are inappropriate or rude.

[reashka]

Yeah...I agree with that, too. That's very important if you come from a large family. Think about it when you choose yourself a username, too... My little sister still wants to know what's mine, but I don't want to tell her, because I'm sure she'll laugh at me...

We share the same Sophia, I guess if my sister found what's mine she'll sure tease me on that.

Here's something else to think about before you post a topic or a reply.  Think about whether someone very close to you (e.g., a wife or husband) may access this site and read your post.  This should be a no-brainer but sometimes we speak freely and don't stop to think about how someone very close to us might react if he or she were to read our post(s).  They may misunderstand or misconstrue something you posted. It could lead to repercussions in your private life.  Suppose you posted that you wished you were Nicholas II. That might not go over very well with a spouse or partner. Guess how I learned this. Think about it.

We really should think before we post because we don't know what's in mind of others and they might misunderstand what we're saying, carefulness and maturity is really needed.

[Grace]

Well, I must be a bit dumb, because I'm afraid I don't really understand this thread personally.

I don't come on this forum to talk about myself or my family so it wouldn't matter if they did come on and read my posts...

I have obviously missed the point here...

[Alicky1872]

I'm with you on this one Grace.   While I'm sure it's always a good idea to think before you type (as we all know, I'm guilty of doing this the other way round! Especially when getting worked up about Eddy! ) I'm not sure what our famillies have to do with this. My family know I'm insane and wouldn't be surprised by anything I say on here. In fact I'm usually on my best behavior here. They'd be shocked at how restrained I am!  

All:
  Suppose you posted that you wished you were Nicholas II. That might not go over very well with a spouse or partner. Guess how I learned this.

Yeah, telling your wife you A) wish you were a dead man, or B) wish you had been married to another woman has never gone down as the best way to romance a woman in my book!  

[grandduchessella]

Poor Jim_W--sounds like it wasn't the happiest situation there.  :-/

Bob sometimes asks me about the Forum but he's never tried to see what I write (though I often tell him) and respects my privacy. He knows I wouldn't do anything to embarass him (except post a picture of him sleeping at work in Bagram ) so he doesn't worry.

The biggest problem I've had with posting is just the lack of face-to-face contact where you can see a person's face or hear their tone of voice. That can sometimes lead to some unpleasant misunderstandings where someone thought I was being sarcastic or I've thought they were being confrontational. I've been on both sides of that fence.  :-/

[royal_netherlands]

Yes I know what you mean.

 royal netherlands

[Alicky1872]

Hang in there Jim_Wilhelm, and just tell your parrner that what you really meant to say was that you wish you were Nicholas II so you could treat them to all the imperial luxuries they deserve!  

[Laura Mabee]

Hang in there Jim_Wilhelm, and just tell your parrner that what you really meant to say was that you wish you were Nicholas II so you could treat them to all the imperial luxuries they deserve!  

Ooo! Good save indeed!

[imperial angel]

Yes, that's true that your family might not like what you write. Sure, we don't come on talk about our families, or even ourselves, but sometimes we reference them when discussing something. I am not sure they would always like that! Anyway, it is important not to get too off the wall, but to always think before we type.My family really doesn't know I am on here.. though, and perhaps that is the way to keep it. But great advice, we write not for ourselves, but for the benefit of people on the forum, and always thinking before we type is good. Sorry you found out the hard way!

[Margarita Markovna]

Ooo! Good save indeed!

Agreed. That should get you out of a tight spot!

[reashka]

But great advice, we write not for ourselves, but for the benefit of people on the forum, and always thinking before we type is good.

Very well said.