It is very interesting of how things are remembered and not. In my reading of several statements not only on this forum and threads, but in books, etc., I am understanding [and to most readers as well that for the mainstay, HIH Alexandra chose NOT to be involved in court interfaces, and stuck primarily to herself, her family, [in the role of mother], and was anything from most reports of how most other Imperial Tsar's wives were. So, this leads me to wonder all the more about those who state presently what they do about HIH Alexandra. Letters aside, what she actually did, and on a daily basis, points exactly to how and with whom her life revolved around. Remember, this was one of the main issues the people had with her, that she was more or less, an invisible part of court interchanges, functions, etc. She however was involved foremost in charitable understandings, and that of the Russian Orthodox Church. Of course she had her private thoughts, and was certainly entitled to them. Like any family member, she probably discussed what she wished. Nothing wrong with that. Every member of every family does that. Most importantly, she was a 'private person' when it came to her emotions. HIH Alexandra was not a person who was without poise, and how to conduct herself in public, or with others. It is careless to typify her as being anything but poised, intelligent and most regal !
IF HIH Alexandra was the way many think she was, in terms of being the opposite of how to conduct her station, etc., how on earth would she take the reigns or dictate her will? This in itself would have been noted immediately.
People don't change so drastically, especially for all the years HIH Alexandra took to herself, along with her illnesses, it did not allow her to involve her much in most issues of court life, or politics for that matter. Her whole life, and focus was her children, and of course the next heir to the throne. Here of course, she had the right to rightfully stand up for her son, and his future. Her thoughts of Russia was of great love. Belochka is quite right, when she wept privately, she wept for Russia. She was not Russia's enemy, quite the contrary !
Anyway, for all of us here, it is more of less conjucture of what we thought she did or did not do.
But based on everything put together of her profile, imho, it is what I come up with to date.
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