I buy a lot of books by post. I always go to Amazon first, then Bookfinder. I will not pay exorbitant post & handling costs. That is ridiculous. And the sellers who do charge those high fees are just milking their customers, IMO. Postage they cannot control but the so-called "handling fee" can be way out of line. What does it take to wrap a book for shipping for heaven's sake ? And if the seller sell a lot of books, they have that down to an automatic procedure and could probably do it blindfolded.
I also order a lot of books from Europe. Usually auction catalogues, as I will not be there for the auction itself. Those tend to be heavy, so for convenience I have them sent. to San Francisco, the S&H charges are always reasonable. With other books,, if I am not due back in England anytime soon and I was to be assured of getting the book before it becomes unavailable, I have it sent to my England address and collect it/them when I next come over. Again, I use Amazon.UK a lot. I save a lot of money using Amazon, no taxes [there are no taxes on books in the UK anyway] and very generous shipping allowance- usuallly free, depending on how much you spend. It is $25 in the US, I forget how much in The UK, but I think it is less or the equivalent.
Bookfinder is good because they have dealers from all over the world as resources. They also often include the S&H charge in the price show. No surprises ! There are several similar services, but I have used them for years.
And, any dealer that would ban me from future purchases due to a canelation, has already lost me as a customer. That dealer must be doing very well indeed if he/she can throw customers away.
A few years ago, I was looking for a rare, costly book. I found a seller in England who offered it. He told me he did not have it in stock but expeted more copies soon. Well, over a year passed and not a word from hom. In the meantime, I found the volume elsewhwe and brought it home from Europe myself. It is a large, heavy volume and postage would have been enormous. Well, after 2 years, he contacts me ofeereing the thing. I declined, explaiing I had found it elsweher. He was furious with me and said he would never sell to me again. I told him I had not intention of buying from someone with such and attitude towrads potential customer. He had given me the right of first refusal, and I refused the itme. He is now out of business BTW.
So, shop around before jkumping at the first offer, especially id the shipping/handling charge s seem higher that they should be.
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