Dmitry, nobody forces you or anyone to love the monarch Napoleon. Everyone has the right to have his own opinion towards his person and his aims. I can agree that there many facts concerning Napoleon that seem dictatoric of people of our times, when we see it in history book and read about it. Especially, when he consider certain other powerful statesmen after him...But when it is stated that Napoleon was an usurper and an aggressor on one others throne, there should also be marked that the french people had much problems with the kings and the monarchy before Napoleon, as well, or why do you think that the brutal revolution happened, if everything was fine with the french system? The french wanted a change, the old monarchy was already broken. Napoleon did not take away the crwon from the hand of Louis XVI! That´s only one point, surely Napoleon is well known for having put the crown himself on his head, but he was elected by the people as emperor! The majority of people wanted him as that time, and I also think that he had good aims at the beginning, for example creating the new lawbook and other points, but he went too far at the end with his many wars and became dictatoric also in his behaviour. This discussion seems more and more like a simple black and white thinking.
And yes, nobody likes the wars, that were happening in Napoleons time, but sometimes things are also necessary for changements of others. Your argument that Napoleon was a enemy of the russian people and destroyed Moscow can be understood by everyone, but I think this point especially hurts you as you come from this country, and it´s something quite personal, but to remain objective he was not the only monarch, who leaded wars. Even when he seemed to lead more than many others. Concerning the innocent duke of Enghien, who had been shot, and other executions, that´s right, that is a point I don´t understand as well. He always feared people, who acted against him, but the truth was that he duke was innocent. But I know, there were many people, also among Napoleons stuff, who never forget him this deed. Two arguments I do not really understand: The fact that napoleon married an Archduchess was necessary to him to connect himself with the european dynasties and to save his familyline and get a male heir. Josephine could not give him any children, so who should he have married instead of Marie Louise? A civil person? That would hardly have been possible. And Maries Louises fate was not not too bad in comparison with others. She lived at grandduchess of Parma later on and has still descendants from her Neipperg children today. And what about the argument with the new nobility? That´s a point, where I do not really understand you critism. Instead of the monarch before him, who simply sweat the poor people and said as fatty king on his throne, Napoleon gave people from simple families to chance to rise to the top, when they were talented, and that´s something positive.
If you put all together, many of your statements, why you do not like Napoleon are very personal- too personal in my view.