Let me interject one point here, that sometimes gets lost, and I think leads to some of the frustration on both sides.
"Ear shape" or facial resemblance is SUBJECTIVE. People see, or don't see, what they EXPECT. Remember my experiment where I posted my great aunt's photo, and 75% of you saw a resemblance, because, contextually you expected the photo to "be" someone.
DNA is OBJECTIVE. It doesn't matter who does the testing, or their motives. The science is what it is. Anyone can repeat it and get the same answer.
So, for those who say "DNA aside"...you stray back into the realm of subjective analysis, and will argue forever, letting your mind decide what your eyes are seeing...
IMHO.