Lisa I feel compelled to address your concern regarding any discussion regarding Felix's alleged sexual proclivities.
With all due respect, any information that has been gleened over the years by various authors is information which is in the public domain. Much of our opinions are developed or influenced by what we choose to read. If there are suggestions made about Felix's personal life, then we should as individuals be also free to express these matters here in a sensitive fashion.
While considering your point that there may be living descendants who might be reading these words, with respect this is not relevant. If we all decided to be selective about any of these issues then this presents us with a form of censoreship.
Who then becomes the arbiter as to what issues may be sensitive to any existing Noble family?
These issues are not new, no startling information has been divulged which would present any undue ramifications. In fact may I suggest that Felix's sexuality does go to the core of his personality. If we are to understand his mentality in any clear way, we must be presented with all the facts as they are revealed and not choose to be selective.
No matter what personal opinions we have regarding homosexuality or transvestisism etc ... the behaviour did exist then, no matter whose glasses we choose to see it through. It persisted all levels of society, and as we are fully aware not even the Romanovs were immune.
IMHO